Updated: Oct 23, 2019
Let me preface this by saying, no I have not lost my mind, no I didn't fall off the wagon and yes I still believe in sex after marriage! LOL! But who wouldn't want to know about "Sex that brings you closer"! So this blog is dedicated to sex and the ways that it will bring you closer.
I'm in A&P shopping when I come across this magazine with the words "The Sex That Brings You Closer", so of course I chuckle to myself because we all know Sex sells! Especially to those people who are insecure and need something to help them along the way so they cling to these articles in hopes that it will strengthen their love life. Truth be told, it probably can't and won't! So I'm going to tell you about "The Sex That Brings You Closer to God", because who wouldn't want to be closer to God. The bible gives us clear instructions on sex outside of marriage, so let's start there since most people are fornicating anyway and indulging in sexual immorality because hey, YOLO right! Let's start with Galatians 5.19-21 "Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." Notice that the first thing addressed is sexual immorality, then it goes on to impurity, sensuality, etc - it clearly states that those who indulges in the works of the flesh will not inherit the kingdom. What is sexual immorality exactly, are there some things that can be excluded? I'm glad you asked! Let's break it down shall we! The dictionary describes it as "the evil ascribed to sexual acts that violate social conventions." Evil.. violating social conventions? I'm sure you're saying to yourself, well I don't do anything evil so I'm doing alright on that end, but what about how the bible defines sexual immorality? Surely this includes things such as adultery, for all of us who prefer to sleep with married men/women because there is no attachment and we get lots of material things. Or how about fornication, for those of us in a committed relationship, we love each other and we don't need a paper to tell us that we are married, what about those who say well I'm young and I'm enjoying life because it's short and we are not promised tomorrow. I don't know about you but I would rather enjoy life safely so that I could possibly prolong it as best as I could than live reckless and help death give me an early grave, but that's just my take on the subject. Ok, I digress, back to the topic. So we were discussing what sexual immorality includes, well back in the bible days people were having all kinds of sick and twisted orgies, temple prostitutes, sex with animals, sex during women's menstruation, homosexuality, sex with close relatives, etc. People were having a free for all, well they still do when you think about it. Ephesians 5.3 says "But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints." God is telling us that we need to stay away from sexual immorality, we need to be pure. How can I be pure if I've already had sex, what sense does it make to stop now, I'm already in sin, I might as well continue. This way of thinking is wrong, wrong, wrong! If you are truly sorry for your wrong doing and you repent and ask God for forgiveness - he tells you to go and sin no more. So if you want to flee from sexual immorality, you can recommit your life to God and ask him to help you control your sexual desires, become what they are calling a born again virgin. Why not, we are born again Christians, so why can't we recommit what God has given us to Him and seek his kingdom so that we may be holy and acceptable unto him? We can! God said so! 2 Timothy 2.22 "So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart." How about Collosians 3.5 "Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry." He wants you to be holy, set apart, righteous. If he d